Tuesday 9 April 2013

Don't Steal My Sweetness Away

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Don't Steal My Sweetness Away



Life,
Sometimes stabs you so bad,
Stomps on your heart so hard,                                                
And expects you to pretend,
Like it has never hurt you.
I am grateful,
For I know my dark past,
Should not take a toll on me,
I know my hardship shouldn't,
Change me to someone I'm not,
But pain cautions me too much,
It hardens and numbs my soul,
So that life doesn't hurt me anyway,
I was told that,
I'm sweet and kind and caring,
I make a wish tonight,
So that life doesn't steal,
My sweetness away.


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The Very Inspiring Blogger Award

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+A Long was very kind to nominate me for this award. He is a very kind and encouraging writer who inspires fellow bloggers to write. You can find his poetry and writings at this blog address.

A Long was nominated by his friend +Katherine Vucicevic and this is her link to her blog


In keeping with the rules in accepting this award, I must adhere to the following stipulations:

1) Display the award logo on my blog.

2) State SEVEN facts about myself.

3) Link back to the person who nominated you.

4) Nominate FIFTEEN other Bloggers who deserve this award.

5) Notify each of the Bloggers of their nomination for this award.

So, 
1) I'm done with this. :)

2) 7 interesting facts about me: 
  •     I like non-fiction books so much and I get engrossed reading books which story cultures in the Middle East and its women!
  •     I fancy heels a lot and the shoe shop is like a paradise that pulls me towards it like a magnet!
  •     I like engaging in outdoor activities like beach camping and kayaking.
  •     I love doing things that others think it's out of my capabilities and I'm a fan of Charles Darwin's evolution theory.
  •     Hated engineering so much but little did I know I would end up doing Chemical Engineering. I'm loving the twist in life by the way!
  •     4'8'' tall. 
  •     I belonged to the Debate Club at my university and I enjoy debating.
So those are seven things I could think of myself. 

3) I have linked back the person who nominated me. :)

4) These are the the most deserving bloggers for the above mentioned award! 
  1.      Adrianna Joleigh http://adriannajoleigh.blogspot.com/
  2.      Henry Toledo http://blogmyboss.blogspot.com/
  3.      Glendon Perkins http://www.glendonperkins.com/
  4.      Jahid Akhtar http://jahidakhtar.blogspot.com/
  5.      Nat Russo http://www.nat-russo.com/
  6.      Arunesh Dwivedi http://geniewonders.blogspot.com/
  7.      Xandria Aisha http://xandriaaisha.blogspot.com/
  8.      Linda http://lindasays-beachlover.blogspot.com/
  9.      Malika Verma http://livewiththepump.blogspot.com/
  10.      James Griffiths http://jimmygriff.blogspot.com/
  11.      Sarah Chafin http://simplysarahsblog.blogspot.com/
  12.      David Procter http://baylesisbad.blogspot.com/
  13.      Virginia Vayna http://virginiavayna.blogspot.com/
  14.      Vignesh Wara http://generalknowledgemaster.blogspot.in/
  15.      Hawke Isaacs http://storiesofaneverydayguy.blogspot.com/
  16.      Brenda Keesal http://burnsthefire.com/
I have exceeded 15 nominees. I can't decide the best 15 :(

5) Notifying all of them will be through G+. 

Nominate your friends and let the fun begin :D 


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Monday 8 April 2013

Why Indian Men Don't Deserve Their Women?

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              Why Indian men? Some of you may ask. Because I have dated Indian men before so it's not justified to generalize it to all men, whom I don't know of. But, I know this criticism applies to men of other races too and if you are a non-Indian man reading this and you feel this post should be dedicated to you too, then this is for you too!

* When I say Indian men, it refers to the race, not the nationality. 
                 

  1. Ego Bigger Than Their Brains

          You may be more educated than him. Or have better sense than him. But, when he says the sun rises in the West and sets in the East, you should agree with him. Because he is a man and he is freaking right all the time. 
           Breaking an (any) Indian man's ego is like cracking a tough nut! Try telling one he is wrong at any point of his senseless talk, his ego gets upset and soon you can see his effort to intimidate you with his ugly hoarse voice! 

           

      2.   Double Standards & Justice


            Obedience and manners are something meant for women and it's solely their responsibility to uphold modesty all the time. Men can be out with any friends of his choice at any time of the day. Men can ogle at any girl they want and even tell that to their spouses. Indian men can sleep around with any woman because they are men, they need experience screwing up a girl to show that they are men enough to their wives.
           Let his woman do that, instantly, she is labeled a slut and whore! Women are not supposed to talk about other men as this would instigate jealousy in them. Worse still, a widow is not supposed to remarry to support her children but a widower somehow finds a girl in replacement for marriage (and that too young, unmarried girl!!)

    3.    Wife, A Source of Income

           Gone are those days where the man used to be the sole breadwinner of the family, the one who works hard to support the family financially! Shame on Indian men they are nothing more than leeches, draining their spouses' energy and income to run a family. Dowry is one dirty culture of Indians that still prevails to date. Man marries a woman just for the amount of wedding gift they get in return. The lesser they get, the more the beatings and swearings the girl has to face from the man's family. 
            On top of that, educated and working girls top any man's preference as these girls could bring a continuous source of income to the family. It could also be an excuse where they could rot at home all day long not moving their lazy asses to work! 

    4.   They Need Smart But Stupid Wife

          Indian men need wives who are intelligent and independent. A woman who is respected and someone who can impress a man's group of friends. She has to be smart in handling a family and professional job. She has to be beautiful like a Greek-goddess even if he looks like a duck! But she has to be stupid enough to put up with his extreme stupidity, fund his unnecessary expenses and good-for-nothing habits, agree to whatever decision he makes as the MAN of the house, and face the consequences that follow! 

   5.   A Maid Unpaid

        For most Indian families, when a girl gets married to a man, it's like getting married to his entire family. She is obliged to the decisions and critics the mother-in-law makes! She has to please not only him but the entire family! She has to do all the chores and housekeeping. All these for FREE! 

       Try complying with all these rules and regulations, you will still be labeled as a woman hard to handle :)
                         




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Sunday 7 April 2013

Marriage: Trading Sex For Money?

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Marriage: Trading Sex for Money?


Look around you and study the factors that drive people to get their partners? Found a similar trend? This is what I'm going to talk about next!

          I agree that financial status and looks play important roles in determining the choice we make for life partners. But, one can run out of money and beauty fades with time. We all know this fact, but still, the majority of young men and women go for looks and money respectively. 

To What Extent Are Money and Looks Important?

             When women consider someone as life partners, we definitely pay importance to the financial security of a man. Most women say yes to a man who is able to provide food on the table and a shelter above the head. These are the basic needs in life. Apart from that, money is also needed to run a family, send kids to school, and have a decent standard of living.  It's hard to live without sufficient money in this world and the least a woman can do to take you as her partner is by considering a man's will to generate money to improve his living standard. I have had a man who isn't moving his ass to provide basic amenities so I know the pain of having an unsecured future in mind.
                 When men consider someone as life partners, they go for looks. I don't know about you reading this but I have seen so many of them putting looks on the top priority when it comes to choosing someone as their wife. Looks are important undeniably to be pleasant enough to the man's eyes and presentable to people addressing the woman as someone's wife. After all, men need some hot-looking girls to be introduced as their wives. This is how men and women basically think. 

What Happens When Looks and Money Overrule Love and Attitude?

                    So we know money and looks don't last. Attitude matters. The love for one's looks and money can die when the man runs out of money and the lady grows old which eventually fades her beauty. It looks pretty fake when someone falls in love with the money and looks. It's like cheating themselves. Marriage becomes like a union trading sex for wealth. As couples can't tolerate each others' attitudes, they tend to live for the sake of marriage or kids or worse separate and find their own way. 
                   Good-looking women are hard to please with as they need to be showered with gifts and treats all the time. They just don't seem to take part in their men's difficulties. Some men even degrade women and label them as someone who comes after money. So, ladies, money buys you and your looks? You sell your looks for money? Isn't turning out to be gross. It's no different than people selling sex for money! That makes us feel so cheap, isn't it?

Attitude Matters The Most

                    I feel it's essential to take time to get to know each other well and get to know their attitudes, their wants in life, and their compatibility with our character. There should always be a way to glue your relationship up when it feels shattering any time soon. A good look and money aren't going to bring you anywhere. The will to look for money and make yourself presentable and beautiful is the key to any successful relationship. Screw that money and looks aside. Appreciate your partners for who they are!


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Wednesday 3 April 2013

Dream Father For My Children

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     Everyone has dreams of their big day with their Mr.Right and dream girl. The other half we have been in search of and the one who fits into our lives just like the missing jigsaw piece. I think I'd like to write my mind about what kind of father I want for my children.

I want a man who is a feminist,
Yes, you got that right and I mean it,
I need a man who respects women, acknowledges their ability and pays heed to the voice of women,
I need a man who could support what I do for a living and be an encouragement, 
not someone who shuns me away from being a working woman. 

I need a man of value,
I need someone who stands for his values and principles, 
Someone who isn't easily influenced,
Someone who doesn't forgo his values for globalization,
I need a man who could pass on these values to the children.

I need a man who is passionate,
A man who is into the things he is good at,
A human-activist,
A man who cares for the well-being of nature,
Someone whose passion is contagious and inspiring.

I need a man who is responsible for his life,
A man whose life is in order,
Whom I believe,
Only then can he make a good life for the family.

I need a man who can teach my children to be independent,
A man who can teach them to live without money,
Someone who could support their passion,
and acknowledges their ambition,
I need a man who doesn't make my children a spoil-brat.



     I need a man of my dream and I'm not compromising on that or settling for someone I less deserve. 


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Tuesday 2 April 2013

Pain Is All We Need

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Pain Makes Us Stronger



You and I,
We are all walking different paths of life,
Behind that smile of every stranger,
Lies an untold story,
Coloured with joy and tanned by sorrows.

Sometimes, pain is the bitter pill,
That we all need,
Never refuse to experience pain,
It's like an antidote,
Pain protects you, strengthens you,
and builds you to become who you are,
Pain leads you to your destiny.

If you are afraid of pain,
You will never learn,
If you are walking life without pain,
You are never strong,
Rise up from your pain,
Shine bright like the sun,
Stronger than ever!


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Friday 29 March 2013

Abortion

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         I'm back to speak my mind up on this issue as promised! If you think I'm going to talk about why women should be allowed to make decisions on abortion, you are WRONG! I'm going to paint a picture for you to see what happens when unwanted pregnancies are continued, how bizarre can it be for mankind, and possible changes we all can do to restore civilization back into the society. 

         For most of the couples out there who have gone through an abortion, it could be one of the most painful and indelible experience ever. Having loved someone, getting intimate, and having a life coming as a result of the union of two lives are supposed to be events meant for celebration not hidden from everybody's knowledge. The thought of terminating life is somewhat traumatic for people who could feel the pain of it. It's a death call to the unborn. 

        The current scenario among my generation is pretty ugly and totally unethical. We can't deny that nothing much has been done to arrest the involvement of men and women, boys and girls from free-sex and sex out of wedlock. This is the PROBLEM we are facing! Neither could we find a solution to the problem nor accept abortion. Sex education introduced is to educate the younger generation on how to prevent having unsafe sex and getting sexually transmitted diseases (STD). It serves as proof that we can't stop men and women from being socially active and having sexual relationships. Hence, sexual education is hoped to stop the worse which are STD's and unwanted pregnancies from occurring. Sometime before, Malaysia came up with the idea of Baby Hatch to rescue babies who are thrown away by their parents. All these efforts by the government indirectly tell us that stopping sex out of wedlock is something not very feasible. 
Baby Hatch



            Why the abortion rate is high? 
1) Youths seek sexual relationships as a part of sexual pleasure. There is no love as bonding in their relationship. They are just purely having sex, not making love.
2) Sexual education may be a general guideline. There are A LOT of other things involved when you have sex. There is something called coitus-induced ovulation which would make a woman ovulate faster than predicted ovulation time. Our body reacts differently and our hormones respond at a different rate. It's all very subjective and each time you have sex, you increase the possibility of pregnancy. 
3) Women are more empowered and they just don't want to be solely taking responsibilities of the childlike those days. They too would want to have an easy way out like men, which I find sadly fair! 

          So we don't support abortion but we don't have the solutions either! Let me tell you what happens when unwanted pregnancies are not terminated. Before that, let me explain to you my stance on this issue. 
* I am not speaking in favour of men and women who sleeps around all the time and finds their partners or herself pregnant again and again. Abortion is definitely not the solution for them, they should be made sterile! 
* When I speak about seeing unwanted pregnancies, I see the FUTURE of the children and I'm speaking bearing this in mind.

1) A country with more quantity more no quality! Imagine if we were to blindly say that we don't want women aborting children in a heavily dense country. We would produce more people like Ram and friends who have taken the dignity and life of a young girl. To demonstrate loudly or make objection towards their senile act would NOT make many differences. Why? Because they are uneducated people from the slums where the quality of life is so poor. This is also why we saw continuous rape cases like the Punjab rape case after the New Dehli in India.

2) More broken families are formed. We need both parents together to nurture a child and shape his/her mind. Such a family institution serves as a proof of love for their children. We don't want to see a child with two biological parents, some step-mothers, and a few step-fathers! A child deserves the right to have all the basic needs to fulfilled and the ability to live life in an ideal environment, not just the right to be born. We often forget that when we are so engrossed opposing abortion, we don't look into the future of the child! At what gestation period can a foetus be called a human or is entitled to human rights? The failure of family institution is more prevalent in cases like Steubenville.

           So, some of you at this point may say that adoption could be the solution to this problem. Very much agreed. But, there is something to ponder upon. While we are rescuing the unborn child, there are already millions of parentless children all around the globe, LIVING life! And what have we done for them or have we ever thought of their welfare? So, you say don't abort but when the child is born, that's the end, everyone forgets about the future of the kid. Abortion sadly could mean we are trying to stop creating more problems for ourselves and save the children on earth instead. 

Now, I believe some of you feel helpless thinking about the direction of we humans are marching towards. We don't have the solution to the problem and we can't accept abortion. I believe we can make a difference but it will take at least another generation to see the effect. 

1) Each one of us should and must work towards forming a perfect or somewhat conducive environment for our children to live. We should educate our children on values, the emotional involvement of women and men in a sexual relationship, and being responsible for it. 

2) Practice gender equality when you are raising your children. Stop exhibiting practices or acts that give them the idea of one gender being superior to the other one. This would encourage them to have mutual respect for each other. 

I believe as a mother and father of your own children, you can shape them to become a better generation. Nobody can do this. Don't expect the government or school teachers. You have to make the changes. For that to happen, you should change! 

Having said all that I wanted to say, I hereby rest my case!


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Tuesday 26 March 2013

Vote! Voice Out!

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Why Vote?

Fellow Malaysians,
          I choose to get my thoughts and views on this matter displayed as soon as possible even though there is one post on the pending list. The General Election (GE13) of Malaysia is around the corner and the parliament is expected to be dissolved any time upon announcement from Prime Minister. Well, we all know that the upcoming election has become the latest sensation. While some of us are eagerly awaiting to exercise our rights, some others are not even registered as voters and have not decided to vote yet. Why vote? 

Malaysia's GE13



1) Vote To Show What You Want 

         Some may be happy with what the government has done. You may feel that throughout the 5 years term, leaders have positively changed the lives of people in Malaysia and you feel these good-deeds have to be continued by the same leaders. Whereas others may feel disappointed with what's happening and they need a change and for that, they might feel candidates from the other party deserve the chance to show what they can do for the country! So, how is the voice of Malaysia going to be heard? Vote!! You need to appreciate the government and want to see them ruling again? Vote! You don't want to see them again for another 5 years? Vote!  
        
        If you are old enough to complain something isn't working for you, then you are definitely old enough to VOTE. Recall your age! 21 and above? Move your lazy ass and get yourself registered and turn up during the voting day! Don't complain if you didn't vote. You don't reserve that rights!

2) Each Vote Counts!

         Yes, each one of your votes, the MALAYSIAN reading this, counts!! You may think that one person not voting is not going to make any changes! Wrong! Each one of you needs to go and vote as the entire voice of Malaysia has to be heard and that's what justice is. After all, one vote is all it takes to decide the next 5 years of Malaysia! You may never know the outcome. Exercise your voting rights and show your responsibility towards the place you have been residing since the day of your birth! 

3) Fair Electoral Policies: Doesn't Matter 

         While we are thriving to have a clean and fair election, it is important to remember not to get emotional into the issue by choosing not to vote unless a clean election is guaranteed! I say vote no matter if the fair electoral policies are being enforced or not! I have to make this clear as I read a status on Facebook sometimes back saying he/she is not voting as he/she has the right to demand fair election. 
         Remember, changes happened even without the fair election sometime back, and this only serves to prove that each vote counts. So to those of you under the same impression, stop bickering and vote!

4) All Parties Loot!

           The reality is, like it or not, when someone is in power, apart from all the good things they do, they also take advantage of the position they are in. They will loot and sometimes get astray from their duties. It all happens. As the citizen, we have the power to also remind them that if they were to loot a little too much and do no good to people, then they will be toppled down next! Hence, the focus on serving the people and fulfilling the mandates will be ingrained in our leaders' minds. With that, we could see the Malaysia we want to see! 

Vote! You can make a difference! 


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Friday 22 March 2013

That F,B and S Words In Between Sentences: It's Your Mantra?

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        So you think you are fucking cool to use the "fuck" word in between all fucking sentences and you think you can fucking scare the shit out of everyone? You think that fucking word is so fucking fantabulous and it adds force into your fucking emotions and expression? You think only you can fucking use it and it shows how fucking open-minded you are????

I'll show you why it's doesn't make you any fucking cool and fantastic!!

     Abusing someone doesn't mean you need to hurt than physically. Abusing someone is not just about raping or verbally ill-treating them with words like hardcore nut or a pig-headed fool. Abusing includes the word "fuck", "slut" and "bitch". None of these words I can find through my phone dictionary while typing and I've got to type word by word. So, even software knows it's derogatory, what makes you think you are the highest form of life if you are one of them using it?

     Three reasons why all forms of abusive natures should come to an end to kill discrimination and violence!



1.  Mind Your Words, It Reflects Who You Are

     What you say is what personifies yourself. We are so concern about cultivating a good attitude that would lift up our children's personality. Just like how you should watch your attitude, you should also watch what you say. Not only bad attitudes could stink, but also the foul words you use towards others. When you project positive attitudes, you get back the positive vibes from nature. So mind your language, make a difference in what and how you speak so others would respect you. 

2.  You Are Degrading Your Own Kind

     Women, you got to watch this out. Calling other women slut and bitch doesn't make you any greater than them. What makes you think that men should respect women when you yourself degrade other women? I have been reading some ungodly incidents on how cruel men can be towards women. While we are so furious blaming men for those incidents (you all know what incidents that have been shaking the world over and over again), why not make a change in the way we treat people and our own womenfolk!!

3.  It Adds Oil To Abusive Nature 

      The abusive nature of humankind doesn't emerge all of a sudden. The way a person who truly respects someone else as a person will watch what they say and how they behave. Even in the worst scenarios, their reflection of anger would be of low abusive nature. If one could be abusive verbally, then it doesn't take a long time for him/her to be physically abusive. Stop portraying a negative image of yourself, only then can you spread kindness and humanity. 


I believe you will be humane enough to treat another mankind the way you would want to be treated!! Stop the use of foul language. It really isn't cool!! 


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Thursday 21 March 2013

Rape: A Global Crime ?

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An Evergreen Topic!


           This post has been delayed a little bit. But, it's never late to post this now. Why? Cause I believe when I'm up late at this hour to write on something that has been awfully bothering me, someone out there somewhere is being a victim of animals for their insane sexual drive! That's pretty creepy, isn't it? 
              
              I was thinking that rape has been a part of the crimes in the East the most, places where women are still considered inferior to men. Steubenville has proven it wrong! That makes the situation even everywhere! Perhaps, are women really the weaker sex? Maybe yes, cause so many things have advanced but women are still complaining about gender discrimination and sexual abuse which don't seem to get any better over the years! Women's organization, Women's Day and so much more for women but nothing is helping much! 

             I feel rape will only stop when certain things really change and those changes are being enforced! It's not just about campaigns! Three things to make the lives of women less scary!

1) Heavy Penalty on Rapist

     Those who rape and subject women to sexual harassment should be heavily charged! I think labeling them as the rapist is not something inhumane. In fact, that's what they deserve. When people identify him as a rapist, that will be a life-long reminder to him for committing a sin that can never be forgiven. Why bother pitying the men when he has in fact did a lot of damage to the girl's life physically and emotionally. Isn't that very much intense compared to what he has to go through? People should seriously stop acting lame and stop seeking so-called justice in this issue. It is never justified to be only considering the future of the man while neglecting the condition of the victim. 

2) Change The Way of Upbringing Boys

       Stop telling your children that men as superior to women, men are the head of the family, women who wear a bikini top is a slut, and so on! You may not tell them directly, but what you tell your friends and how you react towards things will indirectly send them a message of what you think. Teach them about consent when it comes to sex. Sexual education alone is not sufficient. Explain to them about the importance of respecting women and their body, relationship, love and the emotional aspect of sex has towards men and women. Make your boys know the worth of love and love-making!


Is Rape A Global Crime?


3) Make Your Girls Sensible and Independent 


      Steubenville's incident involves boys who are soccer players, who are seen as charming heroes and macho men! Change this perception in your girls' minds. Let them know that someone who plays guitar and soccer can't be a super-hero and there is nothing to be charmed about it. Educate them to be more mature in identifying the manly-traits in the person they like! Tell them not to settle for someone whom they don't deserve to be. Let them know it's essential to wait for the right one and having no boyfriend isn't a crime and she doesn't have to feel left out! Being with the wrong one is worse than being alone. Teach them to keep themselves expensive!     


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Monday 18 March 2013

Three Cups Of Tea: A Man With Unbroken Promise

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        The announcement of book-sale at my university has kept me so excited of getting another book to read on. As a non-fiction book lover, I used to enjoy reading book that educates and exposes me to new cultures especially stories that revolves the lives of Middle-Eastern society. It makes you feel you are physically there, transporting your soul to their society and make you live their life! So, while I was browsing through the stacks of books, I found Three Cups of Tea. And I was able to quickly remember the book as it was one of the books I have seen before. With a glance through the summary at the back of the book, I decided to have it home. 

         I have read many stories from Middle East, but this one particularly is a proof for how kindness without prejudice and discrimination succeeded in winning the heart of villagers from different culture all together. If you are someone who can appreciate a book and it's story without caring much about the style of writing and some crap book reviews you may find over the internet, then this book is WORTH a read!! I'll tell you why!!



1. Education: Empowering Women, The Architecture of A Society 


           What happens in this book is basically, Greg Mortenson, a mountaineer who was helped by mountain villagers in Pakistan. In return, he made a promise to build schools for them to eradicate poverty and improving education level of their children. Greg believes that educating women is as important as educating the boys as educated women will be able to lift the society's status and shape the mind of the young ones. The villagers, who are Muslims, were convinced with his effort and started to enrol their girls to schools. I was astonished with the fact that one man with a will to bring about changes has out-powered the ability of a country's government. The responsibility to educate children lies solely on the government of a country and that's where all the funding and effort should come from. But, beyond that, Greg has inspired lives of many young girls with the opportunity to have a balanced education. Educating girls changes the world. 

2. Kindness Wins Over Hatred 


          We all are well aware of the issues between the West and the Middle-East. While the social stigma of  the West and the Middle East hating each other still strongly prevails, Greg has proven that the act of kindness to people from any society will win the hatred and prejudice that marred their vision towards the goodness in people of other race. Greg was strongly opposed by some of his fellow countrymen when the World Trade Center was attacked, viewing his aid to people in Pakistan as an act of betrayal to his country whereas some of them do realise the importance of educating people in Pakistan which will lead to change of perception towards the West. It was also beautifully portrayed in the book how Muslims were also against terrorism and judging a society based on some of its people is truly atrocious. 

3. A Promise Never Broken


        Keeping one's word to do a small favour is fine. But building schools for a society without funding, that's WOW! I think, little would the people of Korphe expected that Greg would finally return to make schools for their children. Many mountaineers would have came and left Korphe with empty promises but the act of a man living up to his word is really inspiring and on top of that, how the schools have changed the lives of girls are magnificent and an eye-opening story!! 

Of all the things we can do for women, empowering them with education tops them all as that's the weapon against gender discrimination. 


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Thursday 14 March 2013

Sexual Drive and Intercourse: A Male Authority?

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        Changazi told Mortenson how he squared his dalliances with his devotion to Islam. Heading to his mosque soon after another Inge or Aiko wandered into his sights, Changazi petitioned his mullah for permission to make a muthaa, or temporary marriage. The custom was still common in parts of Shiite Pakistan, for married men who might face intervals without the comfort of their wives, fighting in distant wars, or travelling on an extended trip. But Changazi had been granted a handful of muthaa already since the climbing season began in May. Better to sanctify the union, however short lived, in Allah's sight, Changazi cheerfully explained to Mortenson, than simply to have sex. 
        
           Mortenson asked if Balti women whose husbands were away could also be granted muthaa.
         "No, of course not," Changazi said, waggling his head at the naivete of Mortenson's question, before offering him a biscotti to dunk in his tea. 
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         He told Mortenson how much he missed his wife, Rhokia. It had been nine years since he lost her in gaining their only child, Jahan. " She was very beautiful," he said,as they lay looking the Milky Way that was so dense it covered them like a shawl. "Her face was small like Jahan's, and she was always popping up laughing and singing, like a marmot." 

          "Will you marry again?'' Mortenson asked. 
         '' Oh, for me this is very easy," Twaha explained. One day I will be nurmadhar and already I have a lot of land. So far I don't love any other woman.'' He lowered his voice slyly. "But sometimes...I enjoy."
         " Can you do that without marrying?" Mortenson said. It was something I'd been curious since coming to Korphe, but had never felt confident enough to ask.
         " Yes, of course, " Twaha said. "With widows. We have many widows in Korphe."

Excerpt from ''Three Cups of Tea'' by Greg Mortenson and David Oliver Relin

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          Sexual Drive and Intercourse: A Male Authority? Upon reading this book and hearing from a friend encountering similar situation have triggered this question on my mind! I have a friend who came to me saying that she was denied the rights to expect for affection from her partner as she should not be expecting for affection and it is something that's given out of his will, whenever he feels like doing it. 

          I'm not sure if this is a global mentality that has seeped into mankind long time ago or if it's just a social stigma pertaining some societies still, like people in the Middle East and conservative Indians all over the place. I can't say that men from the West are different as I can't judge what I don't know. What has baffled me badly is the total injustice imposed on women on the rights to exhibit sexual desires, even from their partners. Living in a society which has believed that woman should uphold modesty and decency has made things worst. Such way of thinking has indirectly given men the way out from all wrong-doings. It has somehow granted them to do what women has been prohibited from doing. Take the ever-undiminishing rape issues in India as the perfect example. Men has continued to violate women as they are wallowed by chauvinism and think they could get away easily from the crime, blaming the women for being out at the wrong time and dressing indecently. 

         Any unfortunate events that happen to women are solely their responsibility. What's more painful is some of them are even accused of enjoying the rape and not trying to fight the rape back. On the other hand, society has failed to realise that women, just like men, have sexual drives, as part of nature's way of ensuring continuity of mankind, a necessity in life. Ladies being subjected to blames of being bitchy and labelling them as women of low-morale are just another sad case that has eventually succumbed to pure injustice and violation of women-rights. What privilege do men have to get away from the same sins that women commit? 


         Romance is something both women and men have rights on and it is not a 'male-feeling'. A good relationship between man and wife is based on mutual understanding and fulfilment of each other's needs. That includes sexual desires too. 


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Tuesday 12 March 2013

Are Women Really Celebrated?

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        Women's day on March 8th, another special day to appreciate women for all the roles they take in our lives, a day to express gratitude for their sacrifices made to shape our lives, and a day to acknowledge the abilities and achievements of womenfolk! But are they standing tall in all societies around the globe? Are women being given the same approval for their contributions everywhere? Are they really being celebrated?

      Men are men and they are treated the same way everywhere. But, the lives of women vary from one country to another. We all know that women have made a lot of contributions towards the progress of a nation and there are more to come. Yet, that's not all to show the transition of women's role from a house-maker to a ruler. While some ladies are enjoying the privilege of living life they want, millions of others are still being suppressed as the weaker sex all over the world. So what does this celebration of Women's Day for? 

        India has woken us all up with the gruesome incident that took an innocent girl's life away. One point that has to be taken into attention is the fact that the particular rape case was just an incident that could not escape the media's watchful eyes and hence became an issue, drawing attention worldwide. Even while this case was heavily debated and condemned, there were and still are men who are preying on women of all ages for their pathetic sexual satisfaction. What is saddening here is the series of similar unfortunate events that follow after the Dehli Gang-Rape serves as proof that the pressure of various organizations and demonstrations are NOT going to change these animals into men. 

Are Women Celebrated?


         Segregation and injustice towards womenfolk take place in various forms and it happens most in the labor market. While in some nations women and men are treated equally, for instance, when I applied for a job opportunity for Shell, I noticed residence of Australia are not required to state their gender as this is a part of its policy to uphold equality, in some other places, employers are heavily bias and job opportunities are offered for males first. The ability of women and the importance of acknowledging their potentials are never being realized. Education is the key to change society and I believe educating women makes the effect significant as they raise their children who shape society later. 

         I believe as women take their role to be a mother, they should ALWAYS raise their sons to be respecting women and instill the value of gender equality so that ladies are not just viewed as second sex and sex objects but as a creation of God who is capable of anything that can be done by men in general. Again, women have the power to change how they are treated. It's all in our hands. ! Only then, women will be truly celebrated and there won't be a need to have a day dedicated just for us Women.


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Wednesday 6 March 2013

Push The Limits Further !

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        Staying encouraged and determined to pursue something we have always been passionate about lifts our spirit high up. Nevertheless, as soon as you get hit down by hardship, the thoughts of giving up slowly poison the mind. How do we push the limits beyond to make it happen?

Be back with extended posts after my first job interview tomorrow!! Keeping fingers crossed!!


             Back to the blog! The interview went super well! Keeping fingers crossed for the results of it. Having a positive mind and thoughts are very vital in getting positive feedbacks from life. What you give life is what you get in return. Push the limits beyond and make things happen! 

Crave For What You Want

               When life gives you hundreds of hints your effort is failing, give life thousands of reasons why it should happen. Determination and willpower are one of the essential formulae of success in making dreams reality. We should tell ourselves that we should push the hardship behind and look at the opportunity that lies ahead. Look at the blessings in life and how fortunate we are as compared to those who are struggling for the basic needs of life. Make use of all you have in life, crave for what you want, think of it, concentrate on it, and make it happen! Seize the moment, it's the road to success. 


Make The Pain Worth It

              Whatever the circumstances are, be it good or bad, you should always remember: Let the past go but don't forget the lessons. You may have gone through real hell and came out of it, torn apart. Now, when things seem to get a little brighter, always remember, it took a great deal of hardship to learn something life ought to teach you. LEARN it now and never repeat history. Tell yourself that you should keep succeeding and keep moving forward to leave behind the dark past, far away. Double the dose of happiness in life to eradicate the pain you experienced. In that way, you win over the hardship and eventually get stronger than ever in life! 



Nothing Is Enough


            There's no limit for success and achievements. You should not surrender for something that you don't deserve. Go all the way while you still can and make your dreams happen. NEVER feel satisfied with what you have and where you are in life. Don't give in to those feelings of having enough in life. That will eventually inhibit your ability and imagination. Always take one bad event as a lesson for a lifetime and steer the wheel of life towards positivity, go, go and go!!


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Tuesday 5 March 2013

Self-Help: The Best You Can Do For Yourself

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        Very often, during our tough times, we seek the help of those who are close to us. Families, friends, and life partners are one of those whom we always turn to for comfort. Of course, there is nothing like having a long talk with special ones in our lives to help us heal from within. Sometimes, sharing the dark side of our lives with the right person turns out to be a blessing as they will magically lift your life and set you back on track. Parents are the best person with such credibility to do this aid for ourselves as they could bring the best out of us even when we feel like the world has shattered. 

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         What is the drawback of seeking help from others to heal us? When someone lends us their ears to our problems, we would often feel like sharing our emotions and thoughts with them. That person is someone that seems precious more than anything as they act as an immediate remedy to our sickly soul. Sooner than later, we seek happiness within them and we entrust them to make us feel complete. This would lead to dependency and eventually ends up in disappointment. Why? Because people don't live up to our expectations all the time. Like everything else, people change! So, the best medicine for your sorrow is self-help. Why so? 


1. Help Yourself Discover Your Strength 


             You will feel irritated and disappointed with people around you who pull themselves back from your issues and letting you deal with your odds on your own. First thing first, you should understand that nobody is ever obliged to help you overcome your problems. Help is something offered out of their own will and you can't expect everyone to be generously pumping in effort into our problems. Help yourself to do this as you will learn to keep yourself calm in the process, discovering what your strength is and ways to overcome such situations on your OWN. Many of us who have confronted difficulties in life discover our lesson at that point. Pain heals and teaches us something about ourselves like hidden talents. So, help yourself to identify what you are best at. That will give you peace of mind and happiness. 


2. Help Yourself To Be Independent 


             There can never be something as valuable as the ability to stand on your own foot. This is essential in today's world as this attributes to transform oneself into a stronger person. When you are finally able to depend on nothing but YOURSELF, you will learn the best of yourself and using it as a weapon to combat the negativity that pulls you down. Eventually, you will find yourself being more confident and independent in almost every other stuff you do on a daily basis. You no longer need someone to make you feel better all the time, nannying you when you feel sinking. 


3. Help Yourself To Combat Negativity 


            The need to rely on something to drift us away from one dark side of our past will lead to another dependency. Most often, this something will be unhealthy activities that lure us into a mess like alcohol or drug addiction. Some of us would go to the extent of projecting the frustration on people around us thus creating friction in relationships. There is no way of you finding yourself going towards a better life if you keep dwelling in negativity. That's the key to understand the whole issue. You can't only strengthen yourself by discovering and empowering the positive elements, by telling yourself that even this will pass and by BELIEVING life will be better. So, you should constantly remind yourself that you should think the good way for your life to change. 


              Of course, pain is the bitter pill to rediscover yourself. But, that's temporary. Once you have started materializing the plans to see yourself out of trouble, you will love the outcome and you will start loving positivity as an essential element in life! Self-help is the best. There is no other way out!

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