3 Things to Achieve By 30!

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3 Things Before 30

Update: I turned 30 on the 10th of January 2019, and here is a reflective post. Find out if I achieved what I aimed to achieve when I was 25

I'll soon be out of campus and I'm in the midst of looking for a job already. I have hundreds of things on my mind and I feel there is an urge to make up my mind on what I want to see myself as by the time I touch 30! I'm 9 months away to celebrate the silver jubilee. Right now, I'm already feeling bad wasting of my time not having thought about this earlier.

So, as I age I feel the necessity to have a long time aim for my life:

1. Complete Further Education

I have swayed from wanting to enroll in one field of studies to another to a great extent. From medicine to engineering, something I have never considered doing, not even in my wildest dream! Engineering was a big NO for me. But as I stood on the verge of deciding what to do next, having failed in securing a scholarship for medicine (for some very irritable reason), I wanted to take up the challenge of doing what I thought I could never like doing. I have always liked learning new stuff so I don't see a reason why I couldn't do engineering. I took up Chemical Engineering and I'm absolutely loving the twist I made in life. Now, as I'm 2 months away from completing my Bachelor's Degree, I face another crossroads in life. What to do next? 

Some may choose to further their studies right away, but I want to get into the real world, the working life, and see what suits me the most. I would want to have a clear picture of my career. After which I might want to decide which field of studies to choose to further my studies. I have a strong will to venture into Management Studies, again something that differs from what I'm doing. And I want this to be done by the age of 30.

    2.   Have Good Source of Incomes

I regret not thinking about freelancing earlier but I guess it's never late to start on it! I have always questioned myself what if I work for someone and lose the job, what do I do to support myself and my family, and how to cope with the cost of living. The second thing I want to ensure for the future is to have a second option as a source of income in addition to the primary job! I would want to venture into freelancing and generate some income so that I always have an option that would support me if I were to fall from my career ladder!

When I think of having a career, I'm also considering the fact that I may have to alter my job according to the needs of the family I would make in the future. Parents are expected to spend time with their children to ensure they mould their offsprings into people with values ingrained in their soul and mind. To make these a reality, men and women should tailor their working hours according to the need to spend time with family. On the other hand, women need to have a decent amount of income to be able to manage the high living expenses. I have got a lot of thinking to do now :)

    3.   Settling Down 

Settling down in three senses:
-  By the time I'm 30, I would want to make up my mind on which part on earth (or at least country) to settle down. I hate highly urbanized areas as they are just another source of additional stress!
- I would also want to ensure that I have settled my study loan by then which I now feel pretty possible. I want to be debt-free so that I could think of affording a car at least by then.
- A house is a great investment and regardless of whether I need a house to stay or not (women have husband's house to stay as another option), I feel having a house is a long time benefit! 

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Don't Steal My Sweetness Away

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Life,
Sometimes stabs you so bad,
Stomps on your heart so hard,                                                

And expects you to pretend,
Like it has never hurt you.
I am grateful,
For I know my dark past,
Should not take a toll on me,
I know my hardship shouldn't,
Change me to someone I'm not,
But pain cautions me too much,
It hardens and numbs my soul,
So that life doesn't hurt me anyway,
I was told that,
I'm sweet and kind and caring,
I make a wish tonight,
So that life doesn't steal,
My sweetness away.

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The Very Inspiring Blogger Award

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+A Long was very kind to nominate me for this award. He is a very kind and encouraging writer who inspires fellow bloggers to write. You can find his poetry and writings at this blog address.

A Long was nominated by his friend +Katherine Vucicevic and this is her link to her blog

In keeping with the rules in accepting this award, I must adhere to the following stipulations:

1) Display the award logo on my blog.

2) State SEVEN facts about myself.

3) Link back to the person who nominated you.

4) Nominate FIFTEEN other Bloggers who deserve this award.

5) Notify each of the Bloggers of their nomination for this award.

So, 

1) I'm done with this. :)

2) 7 interesting facts about me: 

•     I like non-fiction books so much and I get engrossed reading books which story cultures in the Middle East and its women!
•     I fancy heels a lot and the shoe shop is like a paradise that pulls me towards it like a magnet!
•     I like engaging in outdoor activities like beach camping and kayaking.
•     I love doing things that others think it's out of my capabilities and I'm a fan of Charles Darwin's evolution theory.
•     Hated engineering so much but little did I know I would end up doing Chemical Engineering. I'm loving the twist in life by the way!
•     4'8'' tall. 
•     I belonged to the Debate Club at my university and I enjoy debating.

So those are seven things I could think of myself. 

3) I have linked back the person who nominated me. :)

4) These are the the most deserving bloggers for the above mentioned award! 

1.      Adrianna Joleigh http://adriannajoleigh.blogspot.com/
2.      Henry Toledo http://blogmyboss.blogspot.com/
3.      Glendon Perkins http://www.glendonperkins.com/
4.      Jahid Akhtar http://jahidakhtar.blogspot.com/
5.      Nat Russo http://www.nat-russo.com/
6.      Arunesh Dwivedi http://geniewonders.blogspot.com/
7.      Xandria Aisha http://xandriaaisha.blogspot.com/
8.      Linda http://lindasays-beachlover.blogspot.com/
9.      Malika Verma http://livewiththepump.blogspot.com/
10.      James Griffiths http://jimmygriff.blogspot.com/
11.      Sarah Chafin http://simplysarahsblog.blogspot.com/
12.      David Procter http://baylesisbad.blogspot.com/
13.      Virginia Vayna http://virginiavayna.blogspot.com/
14.      Vignesh Wara http://generalknowledgemaster.blogspot.in/
15.      Hawke Isaacs http://storiesofaneverydayguy.blogspot.com/
16.      Brenda Keesal http://burnsthefire.com/

I have exceeded 15 nominees. I can't decide the best 15 :(

5) Notifying all of them will be through G+. 

Nominate your friends and let the fun begin :D 

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Why Indian Men Don't Deserve Their Women?

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              Why Indian men? Some of you may ask. Because I have dated Indian men before so it's not justified to generalize it to all men, whom I don't know of. But, I know this criticism applies to men of other races too and if you are a non-Indian man reading this and you feel this post should be dedicated to you too, then this is for you too!

* When I say Indian men, it refers to the race, not the nationality. 

                 

1. Ego Bigger Than Their Brains

          You may be more educated than him. Or have better sense than him. But, when he says the sun rises in the West and sets in the East, you should agree with him. Because he is a man and he is freaking right all the time. 

           Breaking an (any) Indian man's ego is like cracking a tough nut! Try telling one he is wrong at any point of his senseless talk, his ego gets upset and soon you can see his effort to intimidate you with his ugly hoarse voice! 

           

      2.   Double Standards & Justice

            Obedience and manners are something meant for women and it's solely their responsibility to uphold modesty all the time. Men can be out with any friends of his choice at any time of the day. Men can ogle at any girl they want and even tell that to their spouses. Indian men can sleep around with any woman because they are men, they need experience screwing up a girl to show that they are men enough to their wives.

           Let his woman do that, instantly, she is labeled a slut and whore! Women are not supposed to talk about other men as this would instigate jealousy in them. Worse still, a widow is not supposed to remarry to support her children but a widower somehow finds a girl in replacement for marriage (and that too young, unmarried girl!!)

    3.    Wife, A Source of Income

           Gone are those days where the man used to be the sole breadwinner of the family, the one who works hard to support the family financially! Shame on Indian men they are nothing more than leeches, draining their spouses' energy and income to run a family. Dowry is one dirty culture of Indians that still prevails to date. Man marries a woman just for the amount of wedding gift they get in return. The lesser they get, the more the beatings and swearings the girl has to face from the man's family. 

            On top of that, educated and working girls top any man's preference as these girls could bring a continuous source of income to the family. It could also be an excuse where they could rot at home all day long not moving their lazy asses to work! 

    4.   They Need Smart But Stupid Wife

          Indian men need wives who are intelligent and independent. A woman who is respected and someone who can impress a man's group of friends. She has to be smart in handling a family and professional job. She has to be beautiful like a Greek-goddess even if he looks like a duck! But she has to be stupid enough to put up with his extreme stupidity, fund his unnecessary expenses and good-for-nothing habits, agree to whatever decision he makes as the MAN of the house, and face the consequences that follow! 

   5.   A Maid Unpaid

        For most Indian families, when a girl gets married to a man, it's like getting married to his entire family. She is obliged to the decisions and critics the mother-in-law makes! She has to please not only him but the entire family! She has to do all the chores and housekeeping. All these for FREE! 

       Try complying with all these rules and regulations, you will still be labeled as a woman hard to handle :)

                         

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Marriage: Trading Sex For Money?

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Look around you and study the factors that drive people to get their partners? Found a similar trend? This is what I'm going to talk about next!

          I agree that financial status and looks play important roles in determining the choice we make for life partners. But, one can run out of money and beauty fades with time. We all know this fact, but still, the majority of young men and women go for looks and money respectively. 

To What Extent Are Money and Looks Important?

             When women consider someone as life partners, we definitely pay importance to the financial security of a man. Most women say yes to a man who is able to provide food on the table and a shelter above the head. These are the basic needs in life. Apart from that, money is also needed to run a family, send kids to school, and have a decent standard of living.  It's hard to live without sufficient money in this world and the least a woman can do to take you as her partner is by considering a man's will to generate money to improve his living standard. I have had a man who isn't moving his ass to provide basic amenities so I know the pain of having an unsecured future in mind.

                 When men consider someone as life partners, they go for looks. I don't know about you reading this but I have seen so many of them putting looks on the top priority when it comes to choosing someone as their wife. Looks are important undeniably to be pleasant enough to the man's eyes and presentable to people addressing the woman as someone's wife. After all, men need some hot-looking girls to be introduced as their wives. This is how men and women basically think. 

What Happens When Looks and Money Overrule Love and Attitude?

                    So we know money and looks don't last. Attitude matters. The love for one's looks and money can die when the man runs out of money and the lady grows old which eventually fades her beauty. It looks pretty fake when someone falls in love with the money and looks. It's like cheating themselves. Marriage becomes like a union trading sex for wealth. As couples can't tolerate each others' attitudes, they tend to live for the sake of marriage or kids or worse separate and find their own way. 

                   Good-looking women are hard to please with as they need to be showered with gifts and treats all the time. They just don't seem to take part in their men's difficulties. Some men even degrade women and label them as someone who comes after money. So, ladies, money buys you and your looks? You sell your looks for money? Isn't turning out to be gross. It's no different than people selling sex for money! That makes us feel so cheap, isn't it?

Attitude Matters The Most

                    I feel it's essential to take time to get to know each other well and get to know their attitudes, their wants in life, and their compatibility with our character. There should always be a way to glue your relationship up when it feels shattering any time soon. A good look and money aren't going to bring you anywhere. The will to look for money and make yourself presentable and beautiful is the key to any successful relationship. Screw that money and looks aside. Appreciate your partners for who they are!

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Dream Father For My Children

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     Everyone has dreams of their big day with their Mr.Right and dream girl. The other half we have been in search of and the one who fits into our lives just like the missing jigsaw piece. I think I'd like to write my mind about what kind of father I want for my children.

I want a man who is a feminist,

Yes, you got that right and I mean it,

I need a man who respects women, acknowledges their ability and pays heed to the voice of women,

I need a man who could support what I do for a living and be an encouragement, 

not someone who shuns me away from being a working woman. 

I need a man of value,

I need someone who stands for his values and principles, 

Someone who isn't easily influenced,

Someone who doesn't forgo his values for globalization,

I need a man who could pass on these values to the children.

I need a man who is passionate,

A man who is into the things he is good at,

A human-activist,

A man who cares for the well-being of nature,

Someone whose passion is contagious and inspiring.

I need a man who is responsible for his life,

A man whose life is in order,

Whom I believe,

Only then can he make a good life for the family.

I need a man who can teach my children to be independent,

A man who can teach them to live without money,

Someone who could support their passion,

and acknowledges their ambition,

I need a man who doesn't make my children a spoil-brat.

     I need a man of my dream and I'm not compromising on that or settling for someone I less deserve. 

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Pain Is All We Need

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You and I,
We are all walking different paths of life,
Behind that smile of every stranger,
Lies an untold story,
Coloured with joy and tanned by sorrows.

Sometimes, pain is the bitter pill,
That we all need,
Never refuse to experience pain,
It's like an antidote,
Pain protects you, strengthens you,
and builds you to become who you are,
Pain leads you to your destiny.

If you are afraid of pain,
You will never learn,
If you are walking life without pain,
You are never strong,
Rise up from your pain,
Shine bright like the sun,
Stronger than ever!

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