How To Sit With The Winners

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Sit with the winners, the conversation will be different.

It will surely be different. In fact, more often than not, when we speak to someone who make us go "wow", we feel that they are just miles and miles away from where we are right now that it is a tad difficult to even understand the life they are living, let alone the kind of mindset they have.

However, the moment we are home, the motivation slowly fades away and we quickly become complacent if we do not do something to keep that "conversation" going. The best thing we can do is to listen to motivational podcasts and watch our favourite role models' talks. But how do we ensure that we emulate them in real life and it is not just going to be another podcast we listen to and let the day slip by without really measuring where we are in life? How do we upgrade our circle to attract the life we want?

Now, to have a network of high-flyers is something we all think is pretty cool. However, it takes a lot of effort from our end to change our mindset, to think like a winner, to talk like a winner and to behave like a winner.

Eight months into my business has taught me a lot of things. I have connected with the like-minded people on Facebook and attended events relevant to my interest. I have picked up Yoga and love the vibes I get from those practicing this century-old art. Friends I make from this class are so inspiring; they eat clean and practice mindfulness. I am so grateful to have been drawn towards these communities as they vibe higher in life and motivates me to become better.

I think it is not how fast we can be a part of the high-flying network. It is the little changes we do in life that helps us to transform our daily lives. A changed lifestyle will lead to a changed mindset, and a changed mindset will be a lead magnet to draw those winners we eventually want to be a part of with.

How Inner Work Changes Our Mind and Body
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I am definitely still a work-in-progress and I get paranoid when a strategy fails. I procastinate when I feel pranoid or disturbed mentally, and most importantly it scares the shit out of me still to be accountable of failed plans and audit my business strategies. Because it forces to evaluate who I am, and what went wrong. As an entrepreneur, everything I do reflects who I am. I need to have the tenacity to keep things going and listen to my intuition to truly see what works best.

To have this ability, I should first align my thoughts and emotions, see where my energy is being spent every day and be a better version of myself. Most importantly, creating a business of value requires being a person of value. I think this is the greatest challenge one can have and I am so glad to have chosen this path to live life of my own terms, although I am still a work-in-progress.

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Taking The Sex Out of The Gingerbread Man

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A cafe in Auckland introduced the gender neutral gingerbread people

What if you are told that the Gingerbread Man is no longer a man? The Co-op group announced sometime in April this year that the company, which has diversity and inclusion embedded in its core values, that it is announcing the gender neutral gingerbread people to replace the famous Gingerbread Man.

Following that, a cafe in Auckland decided to introduce the gender neutral cookie this Christmas which has sparked a debate on social media.

Now, what is funny is the fact that the "gender neutral" cookie has one head, two hands and two legs, just like the traditional cookie from the 15th century. Well, probably the gender neutral one is a little darker, may be to support people with darker skin tone (well, I can't say people of colour or the blacks as that might trigger another controversy).

The traditional century-old cookie

Gingerbread dates from the 15th century. Figural biscuit-making was practiced in the 16th century. The Gingerbread Man is also a fairy tale about a gingerbread man's escape from various pursuers and his eventual demise between the jaws of a fox. There are several movies and animated cartoons with featuring the same character as well.

This cookie, which has a humanoid face, with a stubby feet and hands do not really represent the features of a man. We all know that the Snowman does not necessarily have to be a man, and it is just another way of referring to a human being.

The rise of awareness to accept diversity and inclusion has inarguably prompt the company to jump on the bandwagon like Thomas the Tank Engine cartoon that introduced female characters to empower females. This is a way to educate young kids that the females have an equal role to play in a society, and this effort is certainly applaudable.

However, eliminating the need to identify human based on their biological gender takes things to whole lot of different level, which we are not ready for. Most importantly, we are trying to erode the identity of someone with an XY chromose, by saying that man is not a valid identity of gender.

Several months ago, I watched this Ted talk which is simply mindblowing and probably a subject that won't sink into the mind of many. The way we think about biological sex is wrong. Researches have proven that an intersex person doesn't fit the standard definition of male or female. What is even mind-boggling is how our bodies can exhibit the "male" or the "female" attributes that help us to be identified as "men" or "women", but our DNA can say otherwise.

To add to the complexity, this scientist is trying to raise our awareness on the biology of gender, and how people can no longer be classfied according to the male and female classification alone based on our sex chromoses (XX for females and XY for males).

When the human body has proven to be so complex, and if inclusion and diversity are something that we would genuinely like to uphold, shouldn't gingerbread man exist alongside with the other genders of the gingerbread?

The LGBTQIA community exists for a reason, and we stopped identifying them as "gays" in general starting from the mid 80's. It is also not right to call any of this community member as "non-straight" as that is a sign of being non-inclusive.

And that is what the Co-op is doing. It is being non-inclusive by creating a gender-neutral cookie, which clearly defies the whole purpose of it doing so.


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